While watching a vlog by my good friends Jocelyn and Adrian of the YouTube channel "Reinventing the Wheel TV," they dropped the expression, "The best revenge is to have a good life." It might actually have been to lead a happy life, but my brain did not retain the exact wording but rather what they were trying to convey with it. My interpretation of this is, in short, that instead of living a life in anger or resentment, the best way to get "back" at someone is to simply make the best of the circumstances. One can even give this a positive twist - rather than thriving despite something, one is thriving because of it! This helps impart a sense of gratitude. I choose to look at it this way - everything and everyone placed on my path was put there for a reason so that I might have certain experiences and develop a certain skill set. Much of what transpires in my life I might never fully understand, or at least not until later. Whatever cards I am dealt, however, I am determined to play my best hand. Being a hobby gambler, I have many a time seen a pair of 2's win at poker. So, let's make the best of what we have. We don't know the bigger picture. If we let it, life will reveal itself to us. Let's not focus on how unloved, unworthy, disadvantaged, betrayed or hurt we might feel. In other words, let's not play the victim. Also, let's not focus on making life and the people in it pay us back for any perceived wrongdoings toward us. No one owes us anything. In fact, everything they either ever did to us or did not do for us was probably a favor. Here's a little secret... as long as one is alive, everything is possible, so let's not close ourselves off to potential. And though it might sound cliche, let's choose to focus on the positive. I believe a lot of anger is misdirected anger. Actually, one is not angry at life or it's agents (and by agents I mean those people who carry actions out on its behalf), one is angry at oneself for not making the best of it. Once we make self-improvement instead of self-pity our focus, much of our anger, envy, jealousy and resentment will automatically dissipate.